"Lost In The Sauce" - A University Experience

~ IT IS SO EASY TO LOSE WHO YOU ARE AS A PERSON ~

Let me start off with a little story...

My friens came to University as an individual who thought that she could stand her ground when it came to her beliefs. Certain aspects of what she believed had never been challenged before so it had never been an issue. However, at university, there were no parents to tell her what to do. Nobody she knew to condemn her. She could really change who she was and nobody would ever find out. This young lady was used to male attention but as soon as she touched down at university, it all became a bit too much. She got "lost in the sauce". For the first couple months she held her ground. She would never put herself in situations where she could slip up. If she ever was in a situation, she would manage to escape it. Until one day, temptation got the best of her and she lost her virginity. The thrill she felt soon died off the next morning remembering everything she stood for. That feeling of excitement was soon replaced with guilt and regret. All she could do was cry. She didn't want to pray. The devil had really gotten into her mind that this was beyond forgivable. She tried justifying her actions but that never worked out either. In the end she just thought

"I am lost already, I may as well carry on".

So she did.

She didn't go wild and crazy. She was still careful with who she slept with. This made her feel better about her choices. She still thought of herself as above those "other" girls. Really and truly she wasn't. Deep in the back of her mind she knew she didn't want to be partaking in sex before marriage but she couldn't stop herself. The urge was so strong. The temptation tasted so sweet. It was all bliss until slowly but surely every single guy started to just hurt her feelings. Her self-esteem plummeted. Her relationship with males (including male friends) just suffered. She couldn't trust anybody.

The sauce had now dried up.

The other day I was invited to do an interview for a girl on the topic of drinking and social situations. For her dissertation she has decided to focus on people who don't drink and how they feel when in social situations. We actually went into a deep conversation and started talking about people that come to university one way but then end up following whatever the mass majority are doing. The amount of stories I've heard are actually crazy. A little taste of freedom can encourage madness. I'm not even here to judge. We are all here to live our best life. My problem is when people preach one thing but they don't even TRY and live by it. Of course we are going to slip up along the way, of course we will fall into temptation at times and indulge in things we previously objected to. We are only human. It happens. However, when you go out with a mindset to deliberately carry out foolish antics just to "fit in" you need to remember small small actions can have MASSIVE repercussions.

People need to realise university still isn't reality. You still have to go home. Okay so you're paying small small bills and doing cooking and cleaning (if you were properly home trained), but university is still practice for what is to come. In Sociology GCSE I learnt about the "hidden curriculum". This is the notion that educational establishments not only teach you, maths, english, science etc. but they go further than that. They develop your interpersonal skills, teach you to be punctual, to be independent with your work ethic. These are not things that should be taken lightly. I mean yeah have your fun, but remember we still have a long road ahead. There's really no time to be getting lost in the sauce. These so-called "friends" you have now, please just sit down for a minute and question if they will really have your back when it's now time to face the consequences?

We actually have to be wise.  In first year I definitely got lost in the sauce. It was really God's grace that got me through. It is now December . Three weeks till 2018. I can happily say this 2017 I lost sight of God, but He never lost sight of me and now as the year is coming to a close we are actually becoming good friends again. These last 3 months have been tough as I think Satan knows I'm trying to get back to where I used to be and he really doesn't want to let go. I'm still battling but not on my own.

Isaiah 43:2 says:

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When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.

Through this University, personally for me I know I have to cling onto God to survive. It really is a battlefield out here and people are getting knocked down left right and centre.

Oh and that girl from the story at the beginning?

She retook her vow of chastity and she hasn't had sex for a month.

It's possible to be strong in what you believe and what you stand for. You really just have to be willing. It's all in the mind. Having the right mindset can determine the outcome of a lot of things.

Thank you for reading guys. I really and truly do appreciate the support.

I hope I do motivate and help at least one person. As usual any comments or if you just need someone to talk to my ears are ready to listen.